{"id":56060,"date":"2024-01-23T10:28:02","date_gmt":"2024-01-23T09:28:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/let-us-not-be-do-gooders-but-truly-good\/"},"modified":"2026-04-17T11:10:18","modified_gmt":"2026-04-17T09:10:18","slug":"do-not-be-dogooders-but-truly-good","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/do-not-be-dogooders-but-truly-good\/","title":{"rendered":"Instead of being do-gooders, be truly good"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"56060\" class=\"elementor elementor-56060 elementor-19365\" data-elementor-post-type=\"page\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-dfc1758 elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"dfc1758\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-background-overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2d1dd76\" data-id=\"2d1dd76\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6e965f3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6e965f3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">LIVE WITHOUT HARMING! INSTEAD OF BEING DO-GOODERS, BE TRULY GOOD<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-a365b7a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"a365b7a\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-f22aa3e\" data-id=\"f22aa3e\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e4a2d16 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e4a2d16\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/gente-negocios-sonriente-pulgares-arriba-scaled.jpg\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"INSTEAD OF BEING DO-GOODERS, BE TRULY GOOD\" src=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/gente-negocios-sonriente-pulgares-arriba-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"333\" \/><\/a><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do-goodism consists of being excessively understanding, indulgent and protective toward perpetrators, almost as much as or even more than toward the victim.<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It focuses too much on the causes that led perpetrators to commit abuse, on understanding why they did it, potentially even leading to the aggressor being considered a victim of such external factors. Instead of prioritizing the victim&#8217;s right to proper restitution from the abuser, it tends to shift responsibility away from the abuser and attribute it to others, such as society as a whole, social inequality, etc.<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, following a major Islamist attack in the United States, a certain do-gooder journalist shifted the blame from the terrorists to the right to bear arms and, by extension, to American society in general. However, this argument is as solid as air, since that right does not exist in Europe, yet jihadists can still manufacture bombs in their homes.<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Due to this differing legislation, the do-gooders in the Old Continent are forced to seek other narratives to justify the outrages of Islamic fundamentalists. For instance, regarding the attack on Las Ramblas in Barcelona, which caused 16 deaths and around a hundred injuries, some attributed it to inequality or economic conditions. However, it was later revealed that the terrorist&#8217;s father received significant social aid despite having a substantial income.<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/reject-narratives-that-justify-cruelty\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>LIVE WITHOUT HARMING: Reject narratives that justify cruelty<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another typical narrative regarding jihadist attacks in Europe is to claim they are due to mental health issues. However, what a coincidence that when this happens, the attackers always shout &#8220;Allahu akbar!&#8221; and not &#8220;For Jesus Christ,&#8221; &#8220;For Buddha,&#8221; or &#8220;For freedom.&#8221; Could it be that the cause is not a psychological disorder, but rather Islamist indoctrination? After all, where does this apparent link between mental health issues and a specific religion come from? Why doesn&#8217;t it happen with any other religion?<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/think-for-yourself-and-say-no-to-toxic-indoctrination\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT HARMING? Think for yourself and avoid toxic indoctrination <\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><em><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/avoid-harm-raise-awareness-about-the-danger-of-totalitarian-islamism\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">AVOID HARM! Raise awareness about the dangers of political Islamism<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><em><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/avoid-harm-combating-islamist-tyranny\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">AVOID HARM! Fight Islamist tyranny<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.change.org\/combatir-efectivamente-yihadismo-islamismo-fundamentalismo\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>SIGN HERE to call on all governments to combat jihadism, Islamism, and fundamentalism&#8230;<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p>Another excuse used to shift responsibility away from radicalized Islamists and onto the host society is to blame the latter for discriminating against them, excluding them and failing to provide opportunities. However, <span style=\"background-color: var(--base-2); color: var( --e-global-color-text ); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size ); font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\">ex-Muslims who know the subject intimately from first-hand experience assure that this is not the case. Rather, the true reason lies in the powerful Islamist indoctrination networks composed of fundamentalist mosques, madrasas, centers and social media.<\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Along the same lines, when faced with the horrors of the past, there is always some suspiciously sympathetic soul. For example, regarding the slavery practiced by our ancestors, some do-gooders exonerate them by claiming they did it because they believed Black people were not human, but animals. As if it were merely a misunderstanding, and as if that absolved them of responsibility for all the suffering they caused and of which they were fully aware.<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another argument they use (for example, regarding human sacrifice) is that we should not judge past civilizations by our current values. But without moral judgment, there can be no justice, and the law of the strongest would prevail, making the world a living hell.<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/judge-fairly\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\">FOR A WORLD WITHOUT HARM: Judge with justice<\/span><\/em><\/a><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And they do the same with other present-day cultures, resorting to cultural relativism. That is, they consider the ways of thinking and acting of other peoples to be as valid as our own. Does that mean the Nazi way of thinking and their actions toward Jews and the millions of other victims are as good as those who fought against such human rights violations?<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do-gooders justify and excuse villains, which can lead to the social normalization of evil and, consequently, to impunity. <span style=\"background-color: var(--base-2); color: var( --e-global-color-text ); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size );\">To make matters worse, these defenders of scoundrels often apply double standards, such as being lenient with Islamic terrorists but not with those on the far right, or being indulgent toward human rights violations committed by the Israeli government but not those of Hamas, and so on.<\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/do-not-normalize-abuse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\">Read THE ART OF LIVING WITHOUT HARMING: Stop normalizing certain abuses<\/span><\/em><\/a><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/be-impartial-and-do-not-apply-double-standards\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>THE REVOLUTION OF LIVING WITHOUT HARMING: Be impartial and do not apply double standards<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do-goodism lies somewhere between complicity and aiding and abetting crimes and abuses. Depending on the case, it may fit into the first category, the second or the borderline between them. It focuses more on the perpetrator than on the victim, when justice requires that the victim be at the center, so that they may be protected and receive restitution.<\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/never-support-injustice\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>LIVE WITHOUT HARMING! NEVER SUPPORT INJUSTICE <\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/repair-the-harm-caused\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>REPAIR THE HARM TOGETHER!<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of being do-gooders, be good people&#8230; <a href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/be-a-good-person\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff; text-decoration: underline;\">read more&#8230; <\/span><\/span><\/a><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"background-color: var(--base-2); color: var( --e-global-color-text ); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size );\">This includes being as just and as lenient as possible with the abuser at the same time, avoiding prison and punishment whenever possible, but demanding that they fully repair the harm caused to the victim. Read more at&#8230; <\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/consider-imprisonment-only-as-a-last-resort\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">REPAIR THE HARM! Avoid prison when possible and guarantee dignified conditions<\/a> <\/span><\/em><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/provide-the-fair-amount-of-compensation\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>REPAIR THE HARM! Give the fair amount of compensation<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><span style=\"color: #3366ff;\"><a style=\"color: #3366ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/demand-compensation-in-the-event-of-insolvency\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">REPAIR THE HARM! Demand work in cases of insolvency<\/a><\/span><\/em><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/dodecalogue-of-kindness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em><span style=\"background-color: var(--base-2); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size ); text-decoration: underline;\">The Dodecalogue of Kindness<\/span><\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thank you for sharing to help achieve a fairer world with fewer abuses and less suffering,<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-83d18e6 elementor-share-buttons--view-icon elementor-share-buttons--shape-circle elementor-share-buttons--align-center elementor-share-buttons--skin-gradient elementor-grid-0 elementor-share-buttons--color-official 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aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-a053c78 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"a053c78\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1ab773f\" data-id=\"1ab773f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-background-overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b532001 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b532001\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><strong> Xavier Paya <\/strong><\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #ff9900;\"><b>Live Without Harming initiative<\/b><\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #e5ac1b;\"><a style=\"color: #e5ac1b; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1705739656386000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0r_zOrwTRU9jKMsNGkX-Vn\">www.institutodelbienestar.com<\/a><\/span><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\">LET&#8217;S NOT HARM ANYONE, except in legitimate self-defence against the<\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"> aggr<\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\">esso<\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\">r<\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\">.<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size ); font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight ); color: #ffffff;\">Read: <\/span><span style=\"font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-size: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-size ); font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight ); text-decoration-line: underline; color: #e5ac1b;\"><a style=\"color: #e5ac1b;\" href=\"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/no-danes\/publicaciones\/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1705739656386000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1Y-BstuMG-ZGz1yLfoAV21\">other articles from DO NO HARM!&#8230;<\/a><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a812ce0 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a812ce0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInDown&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><strong>With the <b>Live Without Harming initiative<\/b>, we strive to prevent any kind of suffering or harm from being caused to you, your loved ones, and others.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>LIVE WITHOUT HARMING! INSTEAD OF BEING DO-GOODERS, BE TRULY GOOD Do-goodism consists of being excessively understanding, indulgent and protective toward perpetrators, almost as much as or even more than toward the victim. 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