{"id":56658,"date":"2024-04-26T11:11:32","date_gmt":"2024-04-26T09:11:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/live-without-harming\/publications\/lets-recognize-the-3-legitimate-discomforts\/"},"modified":"2026-04-20T12:06:24","modified_gmt":"2026-04-20T10:06:24","slug":"recognize-the-3-legitimate-grievances","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/institutodelbienestar.com\/en\/live-without-harming\/publications\/recognize-the-3-legitimate-grievances\/","title":{"rendered":"RECOGNIZE THE 3 LEGITIMATE DISTURBANCES"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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LIVE WITHOUT HARMING! RECOGNIZE THE 3 LEGITIMATE DISTURBANCES<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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To live in a more pleasant world, it is necessary to apply the general rule of being considerate toward others, avoiding causing them harm or nuisance.<\/p>

Read LIVE WITHOUT HARMING: Be considerate<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p>

However, there are 3 exceptions to this rule:<\/p>

1. INDOCTRINATION DISTURBANCES<\/strong><\/p>

These are caused not by someone’s behavior, as it might seem, but actually by the indoctrination received by the person who feels offended. This is the case when someone dislikes others dressing a certain way, being scantily clad, or two men kissing or showing affection, etc., because their family, school, church or elsewhere instilled in them that such things are wrong. <\/p>

If someone holds a religious or moral code stating that wearing green is a sin, the rest of the population should not have to refrain from wearing that color, no matter how much it bothers the former. The doctrines one believes in are to be applied to oneself, if one chooses, but not to others. They should remain exclusively within our internal forum, like the steel structure that always stays enclosed within the foundations, where from the outside we do not even realize it exists. <\/p>

Read HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT HARMING? Think for yourself and say no to toxic indoctrination<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>

Let’s be tolerant and not expect our dogmas<\/a><\/span><\/span> to influence others in the slightest, as long as they do not cause any objective harm to anyone. And by objective, I mean independent of the education received\u2014such as slapping someone, which hurts everyone regardless of what they have been taught. <\/p>

Read FOR A WORLD WITHOUT HARM: Be tolerant<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/p>

The fact that someone feels bad because of another’s conduct does not necessarily mean that the latter has caused them harm.<\/p>

2. FRUSTRATION OR ANGER BECAUSE OTHERS EXERCISE THEIR RIGHTS AND FREEDOMS<\/strong><\/p>

We tend to have expectations of others, sometimes excessive ones, and when they do not behave as we wish, we feel bad.<\/p>

We can demand compliance with agreements, that no one causes harm except in self-defense against an aggressor, that relationships be non-abusive, and that just laws be followed. But beyond that, others are free and can therefore do or not do as they please, even if it causes us frustration, anger or even sadness. If someone sets the bar above these obligations, they are responsible for their own emotions. <\/p>

Read THE ART OF LIVING WITHOUT HARMING: Act with honesty<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p>

Read THE REVOLUTION OF LIVING WITHOUT HARMING: Avoid harming others<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p>

Read LIVE WITHOUT HARMING! Respect the freedom of others <\/span><\/a><\/em><\/p>

If we are asked for something, we have the right to either grant or deny it. Three very obvious examples are if someone wants to have sex and we say no, if someone falls in love with us and we do not reciprocate, or if we decide to end a relationship because it makes us feel bad. <\/p>

A less obvious example is if we decide to end our own life and it causes grief for the loved ones who care for us. This is not causing harm, but quite the opposite, as those who remain sad feel that way because of all the good we have done for them over time. <\/p>

Read LIVING WITHOUT HARMING: Respect the painless death of others<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>

Again, the fact that someone feels bad because of another’s conduct does not necessarily mean that the latter has caused them harm.<\/p>

3. SELF-DEFENSE <\/strong><\/p>

Any innocent person under attack has the right to defend themselves, no matter how much this displeases the victimizer and their accomplices<\/a><\/span><\/span>. And others have the right (and the moral duty) to defend such innocent victims. Let’s build a defensive fortress around them and, if necessary, launch arrows at the attackers, no matter how much it hurts them. <\/p>

Read AVOID HARM! Defend yourself and others<\/span><\/em><\/a><\/p>

In conclusion, it is very different to cause harm than for someone to feel bad about something legitimate one does.<\/p>

Therefore, let’s not hesitate to apply this triad in order to exercise our rights and freedoms and respect those of others.<\/p>

Thank you for sharing if you believe doing so is beneficial.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Xavier Paya <\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Live Without Harming initiative<\/b><\/span><\/p>

www.institutodelbienestar.com<\/a><\/span><\/p>

LET’S NOT HARM ANYONE, except in legitimate self-defense against an aggressor.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>

Read:<\/span> other articles from DO NO HARM!…<\/a><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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With the Live Without Harming initiative<\/b>, we strive to prevent any kind of suffering or harm from being caused to you, your loved ones, and others.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

LIVE WITHOUT HARMING! RECOGNIZE THE 3 LEGITIMATE DISTURBANCES To live in a more pleasant world, it is necessary to apply the general rule of being considerate toward others, avoiding causing them harm or nuisance. Read LIVE WITHOUT HARMING: Be considerate However, there are 3 exceptions to this rule: 1. 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